couple reading vows while standing on a rocky hill at sunset

We’ve seen couples exchange vows barefoot on a beach with no officiant in sight — and sign the paperwork weeks later at home. Some do it the other way around. Others skip the legal part entirely and just focus on celebrating their commitment to each other.

Whether you want to get married with or without the paperwork. With a big ceremony or something quiet and simple, just for you two. You’ve got options, all you need to do is figure out what works best for y’all. This guide is here to walk you through the legal steps if you want to take them, and to offer support if you’re choosing something different.

Getting married without the paperwork (and why that’s totally valid)

For some folks, the paperwork isn’t what makes it real. And that’s okay.

We've worked with folks who chose to skip the paperwork for all kinds of reasons — personal, emotional, practical. And for some, it’s about honoring the commitment they already feel without involving the state. For others, the timing just doesn’t make sense, but they still want to celebrate their commitment. Legal marriage can sometimes affect healthcare access, citizenship status, or other parts of life in ways that are complicated. And some couples simply want the freedom to celebrate their love in a way that feels fully theirs.

Whether you’re queer and navigating systems that haven’t always affirmed you, or you’ve just never loved the idea of signing a contract to make things feel “real” — you deserve a day that honors your relationship without pressure.

That’s where commitment ceremonies come in. Also known as symbolic or promise ceremonies, they’re every bit as meaningful as legal weddings. You can share vows, exchange rings, cry happy tears, and celebrate with your favorite people — all without needing a marriage license in hand.

And if you do want the legal side taken care of? You can do that too. What matters most is that the day you choose to celebrate your love feels like you.

couple reading vows while standing at the edge of lost mine peak

And what about when the legal stuff doesn’t fit your plans?

If your plans don’t make the legal side easy, or you’d rather not think about paperwork on the day you say your vows. You can always take care of it before or after.

We’ve worked with couples who chose to handle their legal marriage license weeks before their elopement, so their day could be all about connection and celebration without any distractions. One couple quietly signed their license in their hometown, then headed out to a Texas state park to say their vows just the two of them, surrounded by huisache trees and mesquite.

Another pair decided to have a commitment ceremony on their wedding day. So they could stay present with the people and moments that mattered, without the paperwork on their mind. They visited the courthouse after their honeymoon and kept the legal side simple. Separate from the heart of their day.

There’s no one “right way” to get married, just what feels right for you.

couple exchanging rings during their backyard ceremony

Texas Marriage License FAQs

What documents do we need to get our Texas marriage license?
You’ll both need to go in person to the county clerk’s office with a valid ID — like a driver’s license, passport, birth certificate, or state ID. If you have a Social Security number, you’ll need to provide that too (no card required, just the number).

How much does a Texas marriage license cost?
It varies slightly by county, but typically around $70 to $90. Some counties offer a discount if you complete a premarital education course (called Twogether in Texas).
Is there a waiting period?
Yes. There’s a 72-hour waiting period from the time your license is issued to when you can legally get married. There are a few exceptions, like if one of you is active military or you’ve taken a state-approved premarital course. But most couples should plan to wait those three days.
How long is a marriage license valid in Texas?
You’ll have 90 days to use your license after it’s issued. After your ceremony, it needs to be signed and returned to the same county clerk’s office that issued it.
Who turns in the marriage license after the ceremony?
Usually, your officiant is the one who signs and returns the completed license to the same county clerk’s office where you got it. But if your officiant is a friend, a photographer (like us), or someone close to you, you might prefer to handle that part yourselves. Some counties allow in-person returns, others ask you to mail it in. Just check ahead so there’s no surprises. It’s a small task that’ll officially seal the deal.

Do we need a witness to get married in Texas?
Nope. Texas doesn’t require witnesses when you sign your marriage license or during your ceremony. So if it’s just the two of y’all and your officiant, that’s more than enough.

Does it matter which county we get our license in?
Nope. You can get your marriage license in any Texas county and use it anywhere in the state.
Can we get married without a ceremony?
Not exactly. Texas law requires a ceremony of some kind, but that doesn’t mean it has to be formal or “traditional.” It can be as simple as standing with your officiant, saying a few words, and signing the license in your backyard, by the river, or wherever feels right. As long as someone legally authorized pronounces you married and signs your license, that counts.
If you want to keep things more private, you can exchange your personal vows in a separate moment that feels meaningful to you both, and then do the quick legal bit with your officiant before or after. A lot of couples choose that route. Something low-key and still intentional.

Who can legally marry us in Texas?
Texas is pretty flexible. Judges, justices of the peace, and ordained ministers (including online ordinations) can all legally marry you here.

Can my friend marry us in Texas?
Yes. If your friend gets ordained online (places like American Marriage Ministries or Universal Life Church make it easy and fast), they can legally officiate your ceremony in Texas.
Can we marry ourselves in Texas?
Not legally. Texas doesn’t currently allow self-solemnization, so you’ll need someone else to make it legal. But that “someone” can be your best friend, your tía, or even your photographer if they’re ordained (like we are).
Do you have to be a Texas resident to get married in Texas?
Nope. You don’t have to live in Texas to get married here. As long as you meet the state’s legal requirements (like age and valid ID) you’re good to go.

couple standing with their officiant during their ceremony

How to get legally married in Texas

1. Choose the county you’ll apply through

You don’t have to get your license in the same county where you’ll get married. So pick one that’s convenient for you, especially if you’re planning to go out of town. Some counties even let you start your application online, which can save time.

couple holding hands while standing in front of a county clerk office

2. Go together to pick up your license in person

Both of you have to show up in person at the county clerk’s office. You’ll need to bring your valid ID (like a driver’s license, state ID, birth certificate, or passport), provide your Social Security number if you have one, and be ready to pay the license fee. It’s usually around $70 to $90, depending on the county.

couple sitting at the edge of a lake together at sunset

3. Wait the 3-day period

Texas has a built-in pause before you can get officially married. You’ll need to wait 3 days after getting your license unless you qualify for an exception (military, judicial waiver, etc.).

couple exchanging rings while standing at the edge of lost mine peak

4. Have your ceremony

No witnesses are required in Texas — just an officiant who’s legally allowed to marry y’all. That could be a judge, religious leader, or someone close to you who got ordained.

5. Return the signed license

After the ceremony, your signed license needs to be turned into the same clerk’s office that issued it — either by you or your officiant. Some offices let you drop it off in person, and others accept it by mail. Once that’s processed, the county will mail back your certified license. And just like that, it’s official.

officiant signing a bexar county marriage license

Helpful Links for Texas Marriage License Info

Looking for your county clerk's office?

Every Texas County Clerk issues marriage licenses, and many offer online or virtual applications. You can use the Texas State Law Library list to find your county clerk’s office, check what documents you’ll need, confirm fees, and find out how to apply.

Want to read more about Texas marriage laws?

The Texas State Law Library guide is actually super helpful. It breaks down all the official stuff in more detail. Like who can marry you, how long your license is valid, and everything else you might want to know ahead of time.

And when you’re ready to start planning the good stuff…

Whether you're signing your license by the riverside at Garner, or waiting until you're back home after saying vows under the pines at Bastrop. There's no wrong way to make your commitment real. Now that you've got the legal side sorted, you can start shaping the kind of day you actually want to live through. One that feels like you.

If you’re wondering where to begin, we’ve put together some planning guides and location ideas that might help things start to take shape. Take a look when you’re ready.